Maintaining a healthy relationship with a person living with bipolar disorder can be challenging. Dealing with their fluctuating energy levels and extreme mood swings can be exhausting and overwhelming. Even if you love the person dearly, there will be arguments from time to time and when this happens, you might find yourself struggling to communicate effectively without triggering their symptoms.
Bipolar disorder is a mental illness characterized by extreme shifts in mood, energy, and behavior. These changes can range from manic episodes of intense energy and euphoria to depressive episodes of sadness and hopelessness.
In this article, we’ll discuss some practical tips you can apply when you need to discuss sensitive topics with someone with a mental health condition like bipolar disorder. By reading these suggestions, it can help you learn how to navigate disagreements in a way that is respectful and supportive. It can also help you develop a deeper understanding of people with bipolar disorder.
1) Find the right time and place
While the ideal scenario is not to argue with a loved one with bipolar disorder, the reality is that it cannot be avoided. Perhaps you have disagreements about something as simple as your weekend plans or something more significant, like their treatment plan. These issues need to be talked about and you’re probably aware that an argument cannot be avoided.
Whatever the issue is, try to find the right time and place to discuss it. Timing can be a very critical factor when talking to someone with bipolar disorder. It’s important not to approach them when they are in the middle of a manic or depressive episode.
When a person with bipolar disorder experiences symptoms of bipolar disorder including heightened thoughts and emotions, it can be challenging for them to communicate effectively. Wait until they are in a stable state before addressing any sensitive topics.
2) Stay calm and patient
You already know that arguing with someone who has bipolar disorder can be a bit more complicated than usual. Keep in mind that their condition can cause them to react differently from what you may expect. They may become irritable, agitated, and may not be willing to see reason.
Try to regulate your emotions by not matching their level of intensity. It’s essential to stay calm and patient during the conversation. Avoid raising your voice or getting defensive, as this may escalate the situation further. Instead, try to speak in a gentle tone and use non-confrontational language.
Avoid making them feel like their feelings or thoughts are irrational. Instead, validate their emotions and try to empathize with how they may be feeling. Remember that it’s not easy for them either, and your support can go a long way in helping them feel understood.
3) Practice active listening
Instead of just trying to get your point across, genuinely try to understand what the other person is saying through active listening. Active listening involves fully concentrating on what the individual is saying and providing them with your undivided attention so they can feel heard.
Encourage them to speak openly and let them finish their thoughts without interruption. It’s also essential to pay attention to non-verbal cues, such as body language and tone of voice, to get a better understanding of how they are feeling.
Reflect back on what they have said by paraphrasing or summarizing it. This shows that you are actively listening and trying to understand their perspective. It can also help clarify any misunderstandings and prevent miscommunication.
4) Take a break
Did the conversation start out calmly but quickly turned into a heated argument? If you feel like things are getting out of hand, it’s okay to take a break. Politely suggest that both of you take some time to cool off and reconvene the conversation later.
Use this break to reflect on the situation and your own feelings. What did the other person say that made you react so strongly? At the same time, reflect on what you might have done or said that made them agitated.
Don’t immediately assume that the agitation is stemming from their mental health issue. Instead, try to see it from a neutral perspective and identify any triggers that may have caused the argument.
5) Keep yourself safe from abuse
Having bipolar disorder is not an excuse for being abusive. No matter how much you care about the person, it’s important to set boundaries and not tolerate any form of abuse. This can include verbal, emotional, or physical abuse.
If you feel like the conversation is turning into an argument or the individual is becoming aggressive or violent, calmly remind them that their behavior is unacceptable. It’s okay to end the conversation if they continue to be abusive.
Make sure to prioritize your safety and well-being in any situation. If you ever feel like you are in danger, do not hesitate to reach out for help from a trusted friend or professional.
At Zoe Behavioral Health, we offer support and resources for individuals with bipolar disorder who may struggle with managing their emotions during difficult conversations. Remember, it’s important to take care of yourself first before trying to engage in a conversation about someone else’s mental health. So, always prioritize your own well-being and safety.